Maintaining unhealthy relationships drains our life force, while letting go of them empowers us to create space for new relationships that enhance our spiritual growth. Blessing and releasing unhealthy relationships with unconditional love and integrity can teach us how to forgive our past, heal ourselves, and generate positive energy to progress on our spiritual path. It’s important to break clean from an unhealthy relationship and stop investing energy in it. If we don’t, we often continue to desperately keep it alive while knowing in our hearts that our spirit has already left it, causing us to feel dead inside.
In preparing to bless and release an unhealthy relationship, remember that the ending of the relationship cannot be blamed on one partner. The old adage “It takes two to tango” holds true because each person is accountable for the relationship regardless of who is dissolving it. When both people take full responsibility for every choice in their lives, including being in the relationship in the first place, then there are no victims, and peaceful coexistence is possible.
When both people take responsibility for co-creating and letting go of their relationship, they lovingly acknowledge the purpose the relationship has served and their experiences in it. Here is an example of such an acknowledgment in the form of a letter I wrote to an ex-partner expressing appreciation and love: “My dear one, let us always remember the purpose that brought us together and that we entered into our relationship with meaningful intention, support, and love. Let us now part in love, respect, and appreciation for each other. I release our relationship for my own spiritual transformation and hold you in the sacredness of my heart forever. Together, let’s declare a new positive intention to separate well in love, care, and mutual understanding.”
The following are guidelines for letting go of an unhealthy relationship with unconditional love, respect, and integrity.
- Give yourself permission to let go of the relationship without experiencing guilt, fear, shame, or hopelessness. Remember, the other person has the power of choice as well, even when it looks like they’re being left or abandoned. In releasing the relationship with unconditional love, you give the other person permission to love and leave as well.
- Trust yourself, listen to your heart, and use your expanded conscious awareness to guide you. Reflect on the purposes for which the relationship was co-created and how the needs of the partners may have changed. Consider the fact that some relationships can remain intact as partners grow, while others need to be dissolved because the partners must follow their own hearts.
- Choose a safe and neutral place to communicate your desire to end the relationship as clearly and honestly as possible. Be prepared for angry or hurt reactions from the other person. Take responsibility for your choices and refrain from blaming or judging the other person so you don’t fall into the pattern of right versus wrong. Treat yourself and the other person with utmost care and kindness as you work to dissolve the relationship so the experience of it will serve you in a beneficial way as you initiate future relationships in your life.
- Write a letter or e-mail, when a face-to-face conversation with the other person might result in too much negativity. Express your point of view with “I” statements. Then, when you feel ready to talk in person, speak in a loving tone of voice, allow uninterrupted time for each of you to express your views, and immediately stop any conversation that leads to bickering or blaming.
- Allow sufficient time for each person’s adjustment. Do not presume that the other person is as prepared as you are mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Decide on a reasonable time line for resolving business, such as sorting personal belongings or joint properties, negotiating living space, rearranging finances, and untangling family ties and mutual friendships.
- Use the mantra, “Bless and Release” to clear your body and mind so you can let go and open to new possibilities. One way to do this is to invoke unconditional love and to visualize enveloping the other person with love and light energy. Acknowledge love for yourself, the other person, and the spiritual connection shared, and honor the purpose the relationship has served while releasing the physical bonds of the relationship. You can use the phrase. Such an energetic completion allows you to appreciate the other person and simultaneously sustain a relationship.
- A tool that can help release your pain is a self-designed ritual of release. Rituals of release include making a picture scrapbook, using old photos in a collage about the past, journaling, or simply lighting a candle.
Blessing and releasing unhealthy relationships unleashes a flow of love energy through the heart. This is energy will attract in and manifest soul-hearted relationships in the future.
