Many of us remember the old adage “children should be seen and not heard” and yet, we still carry that message into our relationships. Amidst the stress and complications of life, even with our closest friends, co-workers or intimate partners we may feel dismissed, misunderstood or disconnected. This is all the more reason to communicate openly and clearly by speaking our truth from our hearts.
Being heard means being acknowledged for who we are and speaking from our hearts allows us to express ourselves more openly and honestly. When we open our heart and speak from this clear and powerful energy center, pure love permeates our words, making them easier to be received and even accepted. Spoken from our hearts, our words take on greater, more profound, and heartfelt meaning to the listener. Like nectar to thirsty bees, sincere, honest and loving words open a person’s listening to us.
When we speak from our heart, we feel secure enough to be vulnerable and express our inner truth without fear of judgment, criticism or retaliation. It supports our need to feel safe which promotes a deepening experience of trust and intimacy with ourselves and others. Communicating our innermost feelings is not something we may find easy to do as it requires us to confront our vulnerabilities and expose our true being. Moreover, it necessitates being consciously aware of our feelings and needs and articulating them. We need to ask ourselves: “What am I feeling or needing right now, either independently or with this person?” Then practice expressing these feelings or needs with a trusted friend or partner.
Speak your truth from your heart and accept your experience as valid and worthwhile even though it may differ from another person’s point of view. Trust yourself and surround yourself with people who listen well, respond meaningfully, and support your needs even if they disagree or don’t choose this for themselves. Know that this kind of relationship environment supports you to venture into deeper intimacy, feel heard and be acknowledged for who you truly are.
