Being Response-able for Co-Creating Your Reality

Just hearing the word “responsibility” can feel heavy even daunting. Yet, to co-create the divine life we want, we have to be responsible for our intentions and the choices that we make. So, let’s think of being responsible as being “response-able”—that is, being able to respond to life situations instead of reacting to them. 

Responding rather than reacting to life helps us to make more enlightened choices. For example, suppose you are ready to leave the house for a scheduled appointment and someone who is going with you is dawdling and not ready to go. You could react by nagging or becoming upset and feeling at the mercy of the other person’s choices. Or you could respond, communicating your need to be on time, maintaining your sense of humor, and making a choice with your best interest at heart, trusting that your choice will work well. In the end, you may opt to take separate cars, leave for the appointment alone, and meet the other person there without anger or blame. In this scenario, you are fully aware there is no right or wrong, no duty or obligation, only personal responsibility. Here you are responding rather than a reacting to a potentially frustrating situation.  

In being response-able, you can bypass the interactions that get you into self-destructive conflicts. For example, you may have had the experience of being pulled over by a police officer for a traffic violation. You hear the siren, look in the rearview mirror, and have a sinking feeling inside. At this point, you can respond by pausing and taking a deep breath, pulling over, and then, when the officer approaches the car, immediately take responsibility for your actions. If you are presented with a ticket, graciously accept it, and thank the officer for encouraging you to slow down. See that you energetically set up this divine intervention as an incentive to take better care of yourself. Finally, you can view the situation as an opportunity to pay closer attention to your well-being.  

Now reflect on your life and ask yourself, “Do I take responsibility for my choices and the life I’ve created? Or do I give my power away, blame others, procrastinate what I know needs to be done, avoid responsibility and hope it will all just go away or that someone will do it for me. Do I take responsibility for my health and well-being, emotional maturity, and spiritual growth? Or do I keep making the same choices which bring me the same results?”  

Choice is a powerful tool when you are accountable for your life. You can start by making more discerning choices such as who to partner, what to create, and handle whatever is happening in a positive way. It’s more than positive thinking; it’s expressing and experiencing the joy of living so that you can manifest wellness. When you accept responsibility for the divine energy that flows through you, you are powerful to envision and then co-create whatever you want in life.  

Taking responsibility for co-creating our lives helps us to take charge and be flexible in any situation, from getting a traffic ticket to experiencing a flight delay, or any other sudden change in plans. Then, instead of expecting the worst, we respond with trust that everything is working out for our best. This keeps us open to whatever information the situation might offer.  

Although we may resist accepting responsibility for our choices because it seems easier to relinquish our power to fear, in doing so, we forfeit the personal freedom essential to co-creating our reality. It is time to face our own addiction to fear, suffering, and flawed belief systems that hold us back, and to do something about our thoughts and patterns that perpetuate them. But, when we take full responsibility for our own choices, and do not blame others for them, we can be response-able even in the most challenging, life-altering circumstances and attract everyone and everything we need to manifest a more fulfilling reality.  

Co-creating the life we want begins with us. If we each take responsibility for the energy we project by becoming more conscious of our intentions, thoughts, feelings, and choices, it will be possible to transform our lives and our world.