With the hustle and bustle of daily life, it’s important to create time alone to celebrate sacred couple time. It’s easy to fall back into our couple comfort zones, allowing the daily routines and responsibilities to become the focus of the relationship. You may think that you are connecting with your partner by engaging in child or household responsibilities together. But nurturing emotional and spiritual intimacy with you and your partner takes dedicated sacred couple time. It means spending time connecting heart to heart and soul to soul.
These intimate interludes focus on “being” rather than “doing.” They provide a much-needed break from the daily routines, restore the balance of energies needed in your relationship, and deepen all levels of intimacy. By taking time for yourselves, your partner, and your relationship, you will become more present, energized, creative, and productive.
To deepen physical, emotional, and spiritual intimacy, set aside a few minutes each day and occasionally more time, such as a weekend or couple vacation, to renew your sacred partnership. This can take place in a silent sanctuary such as walking in the woods, sitting in a garden, sharing a special dinner. Turn off your phones, board your pets, and make child care arrangements so that nothing will interrupt you from your intimate time together. Use soothing music, light candles, build a fire in the fireplace, or bring in other elements that create an intimate atmosphere. It does not matter where, when, or how these intimate retreats occur as long as your intention is to care for yourself and your partnership without distraction.
A helpful practice for deepening your intimacy during sacred couple time is what I call “soul gazing.” To practice this exercise, sit or stand facing your partner and take a few deep breaths together. While inhaling and exhaling, gently cradle your partner’s hands and lovingly gaze into your partner’s eyes. As you sustain eye contact, open your heart and feel yourself transcending physical form. Now focus this energy heart to heart, release any thoughts interrupting the intimate exchange, and experience the flow of love from your heart center to your partner’s heart center. Such unspoken moments of soul access assist us in moving beyond thinking to being in the present moment with our partner.
Taking sacred couple time keeps you more spiritually attuned to each other. As such, you become better able to respond to unresolved issues, offer supportive feedback, and foster deeper levels of physical, emotional, and spiritual intimacy.
