The Difference Between Falling in Love and Flowing in Love

When we fall in love, we get a glimpse of our lover’s soul. When we flow in love, all impediments fall away, and their soul is all we see. To fall in love is magical; to flow in love is mystical. Share on X To fall in love is magical; to flow in love is mystical. When we flow in love with a beloved other, we engage in the ultimate dance of soul-hearted partnership, sharing our joy, passion, and exuberance for life. The unceasing flow of love that we exude affects how we wake up in the morning, carry ourselves, handle disappointment, give and receive love, and sustain our soul connection.

Flowing in love with someone takes a harmonious balance of giving and receiving love without expectations or conditions. Through the mutual exchange of genuine love, we become the energetic conduits for directing this flow of love to co-create our reality. When directed with intention, this powerful energy source becomes the catalyst for creating soul-hearted partnerships in our lives.

To experience such soul-hearted partnerships, we must evolve from falling in love to flowing in love. This is because the experience of “falling in love,” or infatuation, is temporary, flowing in love is a constant state of grace. Share on X There is a widespread misconception that “falling in love” is love; yet it is only one of the many facets of love.  

My model of flowing in love is a soul-hearted relationship, in which two or more individuals ―whether as a couple, a family, friends, or an entire community―are connected heart to heart and soul to soul, and share an alchemy of love energy. With each person operating at their utmost soul potential, contributing to the power of this stream, it flows unimpeded. The soul-hearted partners assist each other in growing spiritually and living in congruence with their souls’ journeys. In such a relationship, each individual is celebrated for who they truly are—a radiant soul on a dynamic spiritual journey. Not only do they have the freedom to pursue their passions, follow their hearts, and express their vulnerable selves, they also have the inspiration and support to do so, due to the increased energy available to them. With such energetic support, obstacles crumble, fears dissipate, and self-expression surges forth beyond anything they had ever imagined. Like popcorn, the kernels of their divine potential are able to burst forth through the nurturing of each other’s being. 

Cultivating such soul-hearted relationships takes effort and a spiritual commitment by both partners. As a whole, relationships provide us with numerous opportunities for self-realization by inspiring us to expand our conscious awareness, address our vulnerabilities, and spiritually progress beyond what we can achieve alone. When both partners are actively pursuing their own spiritual growth, they offer each other a commitment to be the best they can be. By recognizing and releasing the individual patterns and energy blocks that threaten to disrupt the positive flow of our energy, we become more self-realized and increasingly responsive to ourselves, our partner, and our relationship. The mantra for this kind of relationship is: “I am whole and complete in myself, and I offer that to you.” Or as John Legend sings in “All of Me,” “Give your all to me, and I give my all to you.”

A helpful exercise for experiencing flowing in love is what I call “soul gazing.” To practice this exercise, sit or stand facing your partner and take a few deep breaths together. While inhaling and exhaling, gently cradle your partner’s hands and lovingly gaze into your partner’s eyes. As you sustain eye contact, open your heart and feel yourself transcending physical form. Now focus this energy heart to heart, release any thoughts interrupting the intimate exchange, and experience the flow of love from your heart center to your partner’s heart center. Such unspoken moments of soul access assist us in moving beyond thinking to being in the present moment with our partner.

This flow of love sources from within and expands through offering it to another. In truth, the only way to sustain the flow of love is to give it away. Only when we let go of the mind-set that we deserve to receive love based on giving love, can unconditional love flow freely in our lives.

When we have difficulty divesting ourselves of expectations, we need to look within to find the root of our inability to give and receive unconditionally. Checking in with ourselves when giving, we might ask, “Is there is something I hope to receive in return?” Once we are able to give and receive love beyond expectation—give for the sake of giving, share for the sake of sharing, and love for the sake of loving, with no strings attached—the flow of love is restored.

To give love more generously, we have to receive love more graciously. This mutual exchange of loving energy creates an abundance of all things good. To attract abundance, we have to let go of being in control and trust that while like inevitably attracts like, it does so in keeping with its own divine timing. Our task is simply to sustain the flow of love without conditions, which conferring many blessings and benefits, among them the potential to manifest our dreams.