When we fall in love, we get a glimpse of our lover’s soul. When we flow in love, all impediments fall away, and their soul is all we see. To fall in love is magical; to flow in love is mystical. When we flow in love with a partner, we engage in the ultimate dance of soul-hearted partnership, sharing our joy, passion, and exuberance for life. The unceasing flow of love that we exude affects how we wake up in the morning, carry ourselves, handle disappointment, give and receive love, and sustain our soul connection.
Flowing in love with a partner takes a harmonious balance of giving and receiving love without expectations or conditions. Through the mutual exchange of genuine love, we become the energetic conduits for directing this flow of love to co-create our reality. When directed with intention, this powerful energy source becomes the catalyst for creating soul-hearted partnerships in our lives.
To experience such soul-hearted partnerships, we must evolve from falling in love to flowing in love. This is because the experience of “falling in love,” or infatuation, is temporary, whereas flowing in love is a constant state of grace. There is a widespread misconception that “falling in love” is love; yet it is only one of the many facets of love.
My model of flowing in love is a soul-hearted relationship, in which two or more individuals ―whether as a couple, a family, friends, or an entire community―are connected heart to heart and soul to soul, and share an alchemy of love energy. With each person operating at their utmost soul potential, contributing to the power of this stream, it flows unimpeded. The soul-hearted partners assist each other in growing spiritually and living in congruence with their souls’ journeys. In such a relationship, each individual is celebrated for who they truly are—a radiant soul on a dynamic spiritual journey. Not only do they have the freedom to pursue their passions, follow their hearts, and express their vulnerable selves, they also have the inspiration and support to do so, due to the increased energy available to them. With such energetic support, obstacles crumble, fears dissipate, and self-expression surges forth beyond anything they had ever imagined. Like popcorn, the kernels of their divine potential are able to burst forth through the nurturing of each other’s being.
Cultivating such soul-hearted relationships takes effort and a spiritual commitment by both partners. As a whole, relationships provide us with numerous opportunities for self-realization by inspiring us to expand our conscious awareness, address our vulnerabilities, and spiritually progress beyond what we can achieve alone. When both partners are actively pursuing their own spiritual growth, they offer each other a commitment to be the best they can be. By recognizing and releasing the individual patterns and energy blocks that threaten to disrupt the positive flow of our energy, we become more self-realized and increasingly responsive to ourselves, our partner, and our relationship. The mantra for this kind of relationship is: “I am whole and complete in myself, and I offer that to you.” Or as John Legend sings in “All of Me,” “Give your all to me, and I’ll give my all to you.”
Such soul-hearted partners are comets weaving their energies in an alignment of purpose, passion, and intimacy. Many of us have experienced being in soul alignment with a best friend or partner. In the midst of talking, dancing, or making love, we may have become transported into a creative flow that emanated from the coupling of our energy. Stringing together moment upon moment of such present-oriented experiences can inspire joy, creativity, and transformation.
These relationships present us with the opportunity to flow gracefully through life’s challenges every day instead of feeling anxious, unprepared, or flooded by a sense of futility. In such relationships, we can lean on our partner to find emotional balance in the midst of distress, let go of our expectations, and “go with the flow.” We can trust that they are there for us, fully present, and committed to magnifying their energies in creative support of the relationship.
What transforms an otherwise good relationship into a flowing-in-love, soul-hearted partnership is the willingness of both partners to love beyond any conditions, fully express themselves, spiritually grow, and share their energy to co-create a more fulfilling future for themselves and the world. As the twin flames of full self-expression merge in such a relationship, the partners collectively become a conduit for channeling this love energy into the world and, aware of their ability, to not only co-create their hearts’ desires but also transcend any problems they may encounter along the way.
