"Those that go searching for love only manifest their own lovelessness, and the loveless never find love, only the loving find love, and they never have to seek it." D. H. Lawrence As philosopher Eric Fromm states in The Art of Loving, "What matters in relation to love is the faith in one's own love; in its ability to produce love in others. We are only capable of knowing and caring for another if we are also capable of understanding caring and knowing ourselves." In other words, the most powerful way to attract and experience great love, is to embody it. Being in an authentic relationship requires us to first open our hearts and then … [Read more...]
Finding Freedom in Forgiveness
The first step in finding freedom in forgiveness is being willing to forgive. Forgiveness requires that we are open and receptive to facing and then resolving any unfinished business from our past. Like turning over river stones, it is crucial that we examine every grievance that blocks our energies and keeps us from creating the life we want. When we forgive, we sever the energetic attachment to anyone or anything and free up new space for inviting in blessings. Each new year gives us a natural place to forgive any grievances and begin with a clean slate. As we invited in the new year, we may have paused, reflected, and made new resolutions … [Read more...]
Being Love
We dream of love, we yearn for love, we make love, but rarely do we realize that we are love. In fact, many of us view love as something to attain, to have and to hold. We even think we have prove ourselves worthy of love. Yet, love isn't something that we strive for, but rather a flow of divine energy that we are. When we know beyond any doubt that we are loveable, love becomes the source from which all of our thoughts, words and choices flow. Sadly, many of us think we don't deserve or aren't worthy of love. This core belief erodes our sense of self and keeps us from experiencing pure love and connection with another. We hold back in fear … [Read more...]
A Time for Love
When every human being embodies and expresses pure love, our world will heal itself. To support this transformation, we can consciously intend, affirm and express love in every moment with an open heart and with no expectations and as stress free as possible. So, every thought, feeling and choice must begin and end with love. We can celebrate each day no matter if the shopping lines are long, the traffic congested, or our interactions with people more challenging. All of these conditions which we deal with everyday can be handled by sustaining love, flexibility, and a sense of humor. As we come to the close of this year, many of us who are … [Read more...]
The Eyes of the Heart: The Window of Our Soul
The eyes of our heart are the window of our soul. When we open our heart, we access this window of information about our soul's journey. Information flows vibrationally through the heart's pathways guiding us and inspiring our personal transformation. For example, when we are awestruck by a favorite song, a child's touch, the scent of a loved one or the beauty of nature, a cascade of inspired information rushes through us. This spiritual opening creates a shift in our perspective and gives us a glimpse of who we truly are. Through this window of our soul, we receive answers to the questions regarding the purpose of our lives. Our brains … [Read more...]
Embracing Our Vulnerability Opens Us to Authenticity
Embracing our deepest vulnerabilities is the path to healing ourselves and opens us to our authenticity. Many of us hide behind a wall of resistance, afraid that if we let our guard down, let someone in, or let ourselves be truly seen, we won't be good enough. Yet, when we lean into our deepest insecurities and often excruciating vulnerability we are more open to transformation than at any other time. It's in these dark moments of the soul that we peel away the hard shell of our humanity revealing the light of our being. We can start our inward journey by taking time alone and making ourselves available to emotional pain. Confronting our … [Read more...]
Disengaging From Energetic Bullies
Everyday we come into contact with people whose energies are toxic, negative and drain our positivity. These "energy bullies" as I refer to them, often are family members, close friends, intimate partners and colleagues. These adult negative energy bullies have difficulty being accountable for own lives. Rather than taking responsibility for their own thoughts feelings and actions, they often become defensive, blame others, and/or play mind games that tries to protect their own ego. People stuck in these toxic patterns can be depleting to our positive energies and highly destructive to our self-esteem. When we simply interact or are in … [Read more...]
A Time of Hope
"Hope Is a waking dream." - Aristotle As we witness the amazing events of the Olympic Games, we see that it is a time of hope. From an amputee's dream of running in the Olympics, to the courage of a sixteen-year old gymnast, each athlete inspires us with hope-hope for our world, for our country and for our own dreams. Hope makes it possible to not only endure any hardship, but to make the best of any challenging situation. Tapping into this resiliency of the human spirit allows us to transcend and transform even the most devastating circumstances in our lives. Hope gives us the spiritual resilience we need to heal the wounds of our heart … [Read more...]
Compassion and Love: Pathways to Inner Peace
"Compassion and love are not mere luxuries...they constitute non-violence in action." - Dalai Lama Compassion and love are our greatest pathways to inner peace and our true source of happiness. This past week, I had the blessed opportunity to hear the Dalai Lama speak on non-violence at a Summit of Nobel Peace Laureates at Loyola University. Although hearing him speak has been a lifelong dream of mine, it wasn't about checking this experience off my bucket list. On the contrary, it is about being in alignment with the universal principles of compassion, love and inner peace and practicing them in everyday life. What this experience revealed … [Read more...]
Are We There Yet? Spiritual Growth as a Lifelong Journey
There are times when we feel that we are spinning our wheels, going backwards, or stuck in terms of our personal/spiritual growth. How can it be that we work so hard on our spiritual development only to uncover deeper pockets pain in our hearts? Why is it, when we think we have finally cleared our "stuff," we find more subtle layers of patterns revealed to us? This begs the question so many of us want to know: Are we There Yet? and If not, When? However, we must realize that spiritual transformation requires a commitment for the long haul-constant personal evolution over a lifetime. Our spiritual transformation is not a goal that can be … [Read more...]
