"Those that go searching for love only manifest their own lovelessness, and the loveless never find love, only the loving find love, and they never have to seek it." - D. H. Lawrence As psychoanalyst and philosopher Eric Fromm states in The Art of Loving, "What matters in relation to love is the faith in one's own love; in its ability to produce love in others. We are only capable of knowing and caring for the other if we are also capable of understanding, caring, and knowing ourselves." In other words, the most powerful way to attract and experience great love, is to embody it. Being in relationship with another person requires us to … [Read more...]
Giving Ourselves Permission to Be
Giving ourselves permission to "be" requires us to let go of our preconceived notions, mindsets and beliefs of how we should live and choose to follow our heart. Remember, when we had twenty minutes for recess? The bell would ring, and for those twenty precious minutes, time stood still and the universe of possibility opened up to us. As children, we yielded to this freedom of spirit knowing that nothing else really mattered. However, as adults, many of us feel resigned, overwhelmed, and even tired from the challenging pace of endless to do lists and tasks that require our time and attention. As difficult as it is to take time to be, we must … [Read more...]
Taking Charge of Our Destiny
Taking charge of our destiny requires us to nurture and sustain a more conscious relationship with ourselves by becoming accountable for our lives-every thought, feeling, and choice we make. Being responsible for ourselves means becoming aware of our negative perceptions, the dynamics of our current relationships, and our prospects for the future. The intrinsic power to realize our dreams begins with trusting ourselves and choosing to live fully expressed in every moment, no matter what is happening in our lives. It is up to us to fulfill our full potential as individuals and then attract, develop, and sustain the most inspiring and … [Read more...]
Sustaining a Positive Flow of Energy
When we sustain a positive flow of energy, we openly create a sense of well-being and happiness. We hold steady and remain balanced in the midst of the natural twists and turns of life. There will always be external circumstances that challenge us in ways beyond what we think we are capable. Yet, when we pause, open our hearts, and release all reactivity, we realize these moments are divine opportunities to transform our lives. To sustain a state of well-being, we breathe, let go of our fear-based thoughts and let things be. Remember that you are the source of the inner and outer landscape of your life. The quality of it is determined by … [Read more...]
Riding the Turbulent Waves of Transformation
What a wild summer it has been as we continue to experience the tremendous shifts on a global and personal level. Whether we view it as mercury retrograde or a full moon, this transformational shift feels like a surfer on his board riding a huge wave. On the global level, we are experiencing computer glitches, weather pattern changes, stock market ups and downs and political turmoil. On a personal basis, many of us are struggling with work, career, finances, health and relationships feeling fatigue, energy drains and deep disappointments. However, the good news is that this time is one of unprecedented transformation. How we perceive these … [Read more...]
Establishing Healthy Energetic Boundaries
Establishing healthy energetic boundaries is key to keeping a harmonious flow of energy through our relationships and in our lives. This can be especially challenging with our most intimate relationships as we are highly sensitive to the energetic pull that they have on our hearts. We often want their happiness and well-being even more than they want it for themselves and get overly involved in trying to create it for them. This energetic drain can block our heart center which often results in feelings of compassion fatigue.Keeping healthy energetic boundaries between ourselves and another person isn't always easy especially with those we … [Read more...]
Being Heard: Speaking From Your Heart
Many of us remember the old adage "children should be seen and not heard" and yet, we still carry that message into our relationships. Amidst the stress and complications of life, even with our closest friends, co-workers or intimate partners we may feel dismissed, misunderstood or disconnected. This is all the more reason to communicate openly and clearly by speaking our truth from our hearts.Being heard means being acknowledged for who we are and speaking from our hearts allows us to express ourselves more openly and honestly. When we open our heart and speak from this clear and powerful energy center, pure love permeates our words, making … [Read more...]
Healthy Caregiving: A Positive Energetic Exchange
Healthy caregiving is a loving, energetic exchange in which we are the conduits for light force energy. This exchange results in a positive energy flow first to ourselves and then to others through the heart center. As a true caregiver, we can open our heart compassionately in healthy detachment and maintain a positive flow of energy with the other person without suffering with them. This compassionate detachment keeps us from taking things "to heart" which can stress the heart center, resulting in physical and emotional distress or depression.The pattern of caretaking, on the other hand, takes its toll on us physically, emotionally, even … [Read more...]
Discerning Your Heart’s Voice From Your Head
Over the years, many people have asked, "How do I distinguish between my head and my heart?" and "How do I stop the incessant ricochet of thoughts that prompts my constant anxiety. Learning to differentiate the fear-based chatter of our brain from the voice of our heart requires consciously slowing down, creating space so that we can expand our awareness of ourselves and our experience.The perspective we see with our head can only view life from the past. The analytical brain is like a computer that can scan, access, and store data, yet cannot tap into inspirational, creational energy. This information takes the form of negative mindsets, … [Read more...]
Sustaining Absolute Trust in Ourselves
Absolute trust in ourselves governs how we perceive and respond to all challenges in life. It affords us the personal power to express pure love, flow with the stream of life, and transcend any difficult circumstance. For example, with such trust we can embrace every situation not as a source of fear or upset but as an opportunity for growth, even when it unravels the fabric of our lives, such as losing a job, ending a relationship, suffering from an illness, or grieving the loss of a loved one. Having absolute trust in ourselves supports us to live beyond negative mindsets, beliefs, and the fear-based patterns that cause us to second-guess … [Read more...]
