Everyday we come into contact with people whose energies are toxic, negative and drain our positivity. These "energy bullies" as I refer to them, often are family members, close friends, intimate partners and colleagues. These adult negative energy bullies have difficulty being accountable for own lives. Rather than taking responsibility for their own thoughts feelings and actions, they often become defensive, blame others, and/or play mind games that tries to protect their own ego. People stuck in these toxic patterns can be depleting to our positive energies and highly destructive to our self-esteem. When we simply interact or are in … [Read more...]
Tuning In To the Guidance of Spirit
Tuning into the inner guidance of our spirit helps us develop a more conscious relationship with our true being-the full expression of our soul's journey through our human experience. When we open our hearts and access our inner voice, we invite spirit to guide us, at which point its whisper provides a flow of spiritual information we can use to make better, more discerning choices in our lives. This interaction between spirit and soul originates in age-old distinctions between the two phenomena. In the fifth century BC, Socrates and Plato supported the premise that there is an individual human spirit and a collective soul, and when the … [Read more...]
A Time of Hope
"Hope Is a waking dream." - Aristotle As we witness the amazing events of the Olympic Games, we see that it is a time of hope. From an amputee's dream of running in the Olympics, to the courage of a sixteen-year old gymnast, each athlete inspires us with hope-hope for our world, for our country and for our own dreams. Hope makes it possible to not only endure any hardship, but to make the best of any challenging situation. Tapping into this resiliency of the human spirit allows us to transcend and transform even the most devastating circumstances in our lives. Hope gives us the spiritual resilience we need to heal the wounds of our heart … [Read more...]
Freeing Ourselves From Fear
Freeing ourselves from fear takes more than deep breaths and positive mantras; it requires an absolute trust in ourselves and a courage of heart. Letting go of fear is one, if not the most important, yet most difficult spiritual principles to practice in our lives. Ultimately, letting go of fear is about the completion of life cycles and thus, signals a beginning more than an end. This begins with a conscious choice in every moment to shift from our fear into trust. I recently overcame a fear of suffocation stemming from a deeply seated early childhood trauma while on vacation in Fiji. Although the fear of not being able to breath originated … [Read more...]
Compassion and Love: Pathways to Inner Peace
"Compassion and love are not mere luxuries...they constitute non-violence in action." - Dalai Lama Compassion and love are our greatest pathways to inner peace and our true source of happiness. This past week, I had the blessed opportunity to hear the Dalai Lama speak on non-violence at a Summit of Nobel Peace Laureates at Loyola University. Although hearing him speak has been a lifelong dream of mine, it wasn't about checking this experience off my bucket list. On the contrary, it is about being in alignment with the universal principles of compassion, love and inner peace and practicing them in everyday life. What this experience revealed … [Read more...]
Are We There Yet? Spiritual Growth as a Lifelong Journey
There are times when we feel that we are spinning our wheels, going backwards, or stuck in terms of our personal/spiritual growth. How can it be that we work so hard on our spiritual development only to uncover deeper pockets pain in our hearts? Why is it, when we think we have finally cleared our "stuff," we find more subtle layers of patterns revealed to us? This begs the question so many of us want to know: Are we There Yet? and If not, When? However, we must realize that spiritual transformation requires a commitment for the long haul-constant personal evolution over a lifetime. Our spiritual transformation is not a goal that can be … [Read more...]
Disengaging From Negative People
Many people who we come into contact with everyday have difficulty being accountable for own lives. Rather than take responsibility for their choices, they often become defensive, blame others, and/or play mind games trying to protect their own ego. People stuck in these toxic patterns can deplete our energies, drain our resources and are destructive to our lives. When we interact or are in relationship with them, we think we have to play the same games to defend or protect ourselves, yet this only leads to deeper confusion, more conflict, and erodes our true sense of ourselves.The best way to detach from people who engage in such negativity … [Read more...]
Transforming Loss into Love
"Earth has one angel less and heaven one more, since yesterday." - Nathaniel HawthorneDespite the deep pain it elicits, loss teaches us about the delicate balance, intensity, and richness of life. We cannot experience the pain of loss without first having experienced the joys associated with what has been lost. In the movie Shadowlands, poet Joy Gresham, in speaking about her impending death to author C. S. Lewis, expresses, "The greater the love, the deeper the sorrow and the longer it will take to work through it. That's the deal." Simply, As I embrace the untimely death of my beloved soul dog, Cammi, I feel both a great love and a … [Read more...]
Finding Peace in Turmoil
Life presents us with the opportunity to find peace in turmoil every day. In such moments, we can feel anxious, unprepared, and even a sense of futility when faced with an unexpected situation. We may be struggling with work, financial, health or relationship issues, feeling fatigue, energy drains and disappointment. This is when we have to first recognize the opportunity in front of us to let go of our expectations and "go with the flow." By trusting ourselves and our inner power, we can remain open to this positive flow of energy and move through any challenge with grace, ease and responsiveness. First, it's important that we accept any … [Read more...]
The Art of Loving Begins with Ourselves
"Those that go searching for love only manifest their own lovelessness, and the loveless never find love, only the loving find love, and they never have to seek it." - D. H. Lawrence As psychoanalyst and philosopher Eric Fromm states in The Art of Loving, "What matters in relation to love is the faith in one's own love; in its ability to produce love in others. We are only capable of knowing and caring for the other if we are also capable of understanding, caring, and knowing ourselves." In other words, the most powerful way to attract and experience great love, is to embody it. Being in relationship with another person requires us to … [Read more...]
