"Those that go searching for love only manifest their own lovelessness, and the loveless never find love, only the loving find love, and they never have to seek it." - D. H. Lawrence As psychoanalyst and philosopher Eric Fromm states in The Art of Loving, "What matters in relation to love is the faith in one's own love; in its ability to produce love in others. We are only capable of knowing and caring for the other if we are also capable of understanding, caring, and knowing ourselves." In other words, the most powerful way to attract and experience great love, is to embody it. Being in relationship with another person requires us to … [Read more...]
Love Yourself-Love Your Life
When someone says, "I love my life," what's the first thought you have? Do you feel happy for this person and think, "Yes, I love my life too." Or do you feel envious and think, "What's wrong with my life?" The feeling that comes up is a barometer to how much you love yourself and your life. Because when you truly love yourself and your life, you trust that there is enough love, success, joy and abundance to go around. So how do you love yourself and your life when right now you feel depressed, defeated or uninspired? Before you get out of bed in the morning begin your day with gratitude. If you can't think of anything, then start by … [Read more...]
Developing Deeper Levels of Intimacy
Most of us desire deeper levels of intimacy with ourselves and our loved ones. Such meaningful relationships and intimate interactions begin with feeling "safe" enough to to freely and openly share our fears and insecurities. Opening up to another person and allowing ourselves to be vulnerable helps us establish the intimate connection we desire. We can let down our guard and the barriers that surround our hearts by establishing absolute trust in ourselves and our connection with source. This creates a foundation for an intimate relationship with another. Trust fosters full self-expression uninhibited by insecurity and opens us to heart to … [Read more...]
Creating Energetic Boundaries in Our Relationships
Creating healthy energetic boundaries is key to producing a positive flow of energy in our relationships. At heart, all our relationships are energetic exchanges—opportunities to become a conduit for life force energy. When energetic boundaries are in place, the resulting flow is growth promoting, first for ourselves and then for others. Without such boundaries, however, we can easily exhaust ourselves of energy or inadvertently take on the unwanted energies of others, outcomes that impede our growth and damage our relationships. Establishing energetic boundaries with those we love is not easy, because we are especially sensitive to the … [Read more...]
Giving Ourselves Permission to Be
Giving ourselves permission to "be" requires us to let go of our preconceived notions, mindsets and beliefs of how we should live and choose to follow our heart. Remember, when we had twenty minutes for recess? The bell would ring, and for those twenty precious minutes, time stood still and the universe of possibility opened up to us. As children, we yielded to this freedom of spirit knowing that nothing else really mattered. However, as adults, many of us feel resigned, overwhelmed, and even tired from the challenging pace of endless to do lists and tasks that require our time and attention. As difficult as it is to take time to be, we must … [Read more...]
Engaging in Clear and Compassionate Communication
Engaging in open, honest, and compassionate communication promotes a deepening of trust and intimacy with ourselves and in our relationships. Amidst the stress and complexities of life, even the closest of partners, friends or colleagues at times feel misunderstood, disconnected, or not heard. All the more reason, to practice speaking our truth from our hearts. Here are a few guidelines for open, clear, and compassionate communication in any relationship: 1) Be aware of how you and your partner verbal and nonverbal language alert you to any negative patterns. Phrases such as "You always," "You never," "You make me feel," or "You are like … [Read more...]
Taking Charge of Our Destiny
Taking charge of our destiny requires us to nurture and sustain a more conscious relationship with ourselves by becoming accountable for our lives-every thought, feeling, and choice we make. Being responsible for ourselves means becoming aware of our negative perceptions, the dynamics of our current relationships, and our prospects for the future. The intrinsic power to realize our dreams begins with trusting ourselves and choosing to live fully expressed in every moment, no matter what is happening in our lives. It is up to us to fulfill our full potential as individuals and then attract, develop, and sustain the most inspiring and … [Read more...]
Living with Passion and Purpose
Living with passion and purpose is key to creating the life we want and drawing spiritual meaning from it. It even helps us live a longer and healthier life. Yet, for many of us, life's most persistent and urgent question, "What is my passion and purpose?" eludes us. Discovering our passion and purpose can be an overwhelming, often confusing and even daunting process. Because we have so many mindsets that dictate what we should do, it makes it difficult to discover what truly aligns with our heart.We are so afraid we'll make a mistake, or lose what we already have that we avoid taking time with ourselves to find the answers. And, we wonder … [Read more...]
Practicing Healthy Detachment
As I walked into my favorite Starbucks, contemplating what I wanted to write about this week, I noticed a new sign on the door. It read: "It's not about you or us. It's about change. Change for the better." The sign also informed its customers that the store would be closing for a week for remodeling. Tuning in to myself, the message spoke to me about practicing healthy detachment. Practicing healthy detachment calls us to trust and accept any situation no matter how painful or difficult as an opportunity for transformation. It means moving with the constant flow of change no matter what it may look like, when it may happen, or where it may … [Read more...]
Finding Balance in Your Life
Finding balance in our life is key to enhancing our health, relationships and wellbeing. Many of us are experiencing a particularly intense period of healing, self-discovery, and personal transformation. During this tremendous shift, we have to find balance by trusting ourselves and moving through these times with lightness, love and an inner knowing that we are prepared. It is essential that we balance our energies by taking precious care of ourselves and letting go of more in our lives then ever before. When our physical realities shift, we can feel off center, ungrounded, and begin to question who we are and what we really want. If we … [Read more...]
