Disconnecting from ourselves or others early in life is often prompted by feelings of shame. In her research, author, Brené Brown identifies shame as the “intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and, therefore, unworthy of love and belonging.” Throughout our lives, we absorb shame messages, such as, “I’m unlovable, I’m not good enough, or I’m unworthy of love.” Wearing this cloak of shame keeps us from loving who we are and being connected with ourselves and others. In my case, the shame-based core belief, “I’m unworthy of love” took root after my mother abandoned me when I was eight years old. For twenty … [Read more...]
8 Ways to Detox & Restore Your Body, Mind, & Spirit
After any negative encounter or stressful situation, it’s important that you emotionally, spiritually and physcially detox any negative energies you may have absorbed. Like a sponge, your sensitive energy field is porous and can soak up the energy from others. This often leads to compassion fatigue or empathy overload. Here are several sacred strategies you can use to detox and restore energetic balance to your body, mind and spirit: Take frequent breaks throughout the day to decompress and restore balance. You can take this quiet time through meditation, journaling, or reflection. It takes only five minutes to recalibrate your … [Read more...]
The Spiritual Practice of Letting It Be
A good way to release the need for control is by “letting it be”—a spiritual practice highlighted in Paul McCartney’s inspirational song of the same title. Simply saying to ourselves, “Let it be,” informs the brain that we have entered a no judgment zone which allows us to drop into our heart. In this heart space, we can let go of our attachment to a person, situation, or outcome and any associated negativity. The practice of “letting it be,” encourages compassion, forgiveness, and acceptance of our own and others’ soul journeys. It also allows us to trust the divine unfolding of our lives by leading with our hearts as they whisper words … [Read more...]
Transmuting Pain (Trauma) into Transformation
“To live is to be willing to die over and over again. From the awakened point of view, that’s life.” ~ Pema Chödrön Sometimes a crisis such as a serious illness, trauma, or loss gives us the opportunity for soul level transformation. In some ways, change—even the hard change of healing old wounds—is easier when the alternative is unthinkable. But for many of us, daily life isn’t enough to trigger that kind of soul level transformation. Instead, we allow the emotional pain to build for years, even decades, because it’s easier to ignore it than to lean in and let go. Without full release, however, these old traumas can create chronic distress … [Read more...]
Creating Sacred Couple Time
With the hustle and bustle of daily life, it’s important to create time alone to celebrate sacred couple time. It’s easy to fall back into our couple comfort zones, allowing the daily routines and responsibilities to become the focus of the relationship. You may think that you are connecting with your partner by engaging in child or household responsibilities together. But nurturing emotional and spiritual intimacy with you and your partner takes dedicated sacred couple time. It means spending time connecting heart to heart and soul to soul. These intimate interludes focus on “being” rather than “doing.” They provide a much-needed break … [Read more...]
The Power of Making Enlightened Choices
Break free of your fear by making enlightened choices that align with your heart and not your head. Such enlightened choices, however challenging, will get you moving toward creating your dreams. Several months ago when I was visiting a friend in NC, I took a stroll on the beach with the intent of beachcombing. My friend desired a sand dollar to place in a healing fishing net she was creating. I, on the other hand, wanted a sand dollar to support my intention of abundance. While beachcombing with these requests to the universe, I sorted through a myriad of shells. Each time, I picked up a shell, I examined it, and decided if it resonated … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Remain Positive and Centered While Moving through Intense Transitions
“Our life is an apprenticeship to the truth that around every circle another can be drawn; that there is no end in nature, but every end is a beginning, and under every deep a lower deep opens.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson Transitions are intense periods of discovery, self-healing, and personal transformation and open space for new possibilities and spiritual growth. From a spiritual point of view, a person’s life is a constant series of transitions: changing jobs or careers, suffering from and healing an illness, beginning or ending relationships, having a baby or facing a death in the family, and initiating or completing creative … [Read more...]
Practicing Compassionate Detachment in Negatively Charged Situations
“A truly compassionate attitude toward others does not change even if they behave negatively or hurt you.” ~His Holiness the Fourteenth Dalai Lama All our relationships are energetic exchanges—opportunities to become a conduit for loving-compassion. In such turbulent times, however, it’s important that we practice compassionate detachment more than ever. For many of us who are highly sensitive, it’s not easy being so open to the multitude of needs and energies of others. Like sponges, our energy fields are porous and prone to soak up these energies. Because we take in the build-up of energies from others and the world, we often feel … [Read more...]
3 Steps to Trust, Let Go & Lean into Your Vulnerabilities
“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren't always comfortable, but they're never weakness.” ~ Brené Brown The more we lean into our vulnerabilities, the more open we become to love. The areas of our lives in which we feel most vulnerable are health, relationships, and finances. Whether or not we had a healthy and loving childhood, we all experience some form of emotional pain as a reflection of the human condition. Our subsequent pain, when left unresolved, keeps us living in habitual, protective ways and inhibits us from co-creating a fulfilling and happy life. Leaning into our vulnerabilities … [Read more...]
The Power of Setting a Soul Intention
“Every experience and every change in your experience reflects intention.” ~ Gary Zukav Like an artist facing a blank canvas, you can use the power of intention to alter the direction of your life. Intention functions like a cosmic magnet, drawing to you the people places, and opportunities that shape your future reality. It is up to you to select from these choices as to what aligns with you and what does not. The more you trust the power of your intentions, the easier it is to manifest the life you’ve always dreamed. You are connected to a field of divine energy that emanates from you. Intention gives your awareness (energy) direction. By … [Read more...]
