Until we allow ourselves time alone to lean into our anxiety and release our pain, we may not even realize that our bodies, especially our autonomic nervous systems, hold on to pain. For example, we may have parts of our body that are numb, shallow breathing, or a nervous system in a constant state of anxiety. Leaning in to our anxiety loosens the vice grip our brains have on our thoughts. In order to heal, we have to expose those negative thoughts, worries, and wounds to the light, and reveal all the ways we’ve been striving to protect them and keep them hidden from sight. Our physical and emotional reactions are flags which alert us to … [Read more...]
Take Time for Yourself to Replenish Your Soul
Cherishing time alone with yourself is beneficial to your health, happiness and well-being. It also gives you the opportunity to tune in, reflect and cultivate self-awareness so you can bring your life into alignment with your true essence. Spending time alone assists you in nurturing a relationship with yourself which is key to creating a balanced and fulfilled life. As difficult as it is in your busy life to take time to be alone, you must give yourself permission to recharge, rejuvenate and restore and push the restart button. Solitude and introspection will assist you in understanding yourself more and tuning in to your connection with a … [Read more...]
5 Sacred Steps to Strengthen Your Energetic Boundaries
Creating healthy energetic boundaries is key to producing a positive flow of energy in our relationships. At heart, all our relationships are energetic exchanges—opportunities to become a conduit for life force energy. When energetic boundaries are in place, the resulting flow is growth promoting, first for ourselves and then for others. Without such boundaries, however, we can easily exhaust ourselves of energy or inadvertently take on the unwanted energies of others, outcomes that impede our growth and damage our relationships. Establishing energetic boundaries with those we love is not easy, because we are especially sensitive to the … [Read more...]
Spiritual Alchemy: Rising from the Ashes
Sometimes a crisis such as an illness, trauma, or loss forces us to open to intense transformation. In some ways, change—even the hard change of healing old wounds—is easier when the alternative is unthinkable. But for many of us, daily life isn’t enough to trigger that kind of radical transformation. Instead, the pain is left to build up for years, even decades, because it’s easier to ignore it than to let go and lean in. Without release, however, these old wounds create chronic distress that can manifest as depression, anxiety, or physical illness. Our vulnerabilities offer us a great gift because when we lean into them we initiate an … [Read more...]
7 Ways to Take Precious Care of Yourself
Precious self-care requires us to nurture ourselves with all the kindness and love we would shower on someone we cherish. Too often, we set aside our own needs while caring for others, or put off self-care in favor of the endless to-do lists, career obligations, and other distractions in our lives. However, disregarding our needs to focus on activities we consider more important takes a toll on us physically, emotionally, and spiritually. It triggers such mind-sets as “I should be doing things for others right now, not wasting time on myself.” Putting off self-care may seem noble and selfless—until we become stressed, exhausted, or ill, and … [Read more...]
Releasing Old Patterns and Creating a New Legacy of Love
There it was again, the lump in my throat. I felt it every time I called or texted my son. And here it was showing up on the day when Tom’s baby, my first grandchild was being born. How long had I had this sign that there was an energy block? How long had I been carrying this weight on my heart? How long had I been unforgiving of myself? Sixteen years almost to the day…the day when I told my son that I was leaving his stepfather and the second time I was putting him through a divorce. Tom was two years old when his father and I divorced. So he didn’t grow up experiencing his parents being together. But at sixteen, he would remember all of … [Read more...]
7 Steps to Bless and Release a Relationship with Love
Maintaining unhealthy relationships drains our life force, while letting go of them empowers us to create space for new relationships that enhance our spiritual growth. Blessing and releasing unhealthy relationships with unconditional love and integrity can teach us how to forgive our past, heal ourselves, and generate positive energy to progress on our spiritual path. It’s important to break clean from an unhealthy relationship and stop investing energy in it. If we don’t, we often continue to desperately keep it alive while knowing in our hearts that our spirit has already left it, causing us to feel dead inside.In preparing to bless and … [Read more...]
Where Love is Present There Are Always Miracles
Where love is present, there are always miracles. While many of us are reluctant to apply the word miracle to ourselves, this reluctance only diminishes the power of love that we source through us. Recognizing that I had the power within me to invite miracles unleashed a force of love upon a dis-ease trying to take up residence in my body. So I reminded myself, “What is not love is always fear, and nothing else,”1 suggests A Course in Miracles. Some of us believe that angry, ass-kicking sentiments such as “waging war on cancer” and “kicking cancer’s ass” give us power over a relentless disease, but they only deplete our healing power. The … [Read more...]
The Flow of Forgiveness
“If we want freedom and peace and the experience of love and being loved, we must let go and forgive.” ~ Eric Butterworth Generating a mutual flow of forgiveness renews connection, enhances the sharing of vulnerabilities, and heightens intimacy in our relationships. It is at the core of every soul-hearted relationship, and is an essential dimension of being love. Forgiveness is the willingness to let go of any resentment, judgment, or grievance toward someone who has injured us. It has two essential parts: a release of negative feelings previously held toward the person who has offended us, and an engagement in positive feelings toward that … [Read more...]
6 Steps to Loving, Trusting, and Letting Go
Trusting yourself and letting go are two of the most important spiritual principles you can practice on the path to self-love. Trusting yourselves helps you release whatever emotional blocks keep you disconnected from your true being—such as fear, insecurity, and shame. Letting go allows you to peel away the hard shell of your ego so you can experience the divine essence that lies beneath. These principles are synergistic: the more you let go, the more you learn to trust yourself; and the more you trust yourself, the more you can let go.Too often we brace ourselves for change instead of letting go and embracing change as an opportunity to … [Read more...]
